This morning, I took my dog for a walk out in our backyard here in Florida. The sun was shining, the birds were converging and the squirrels were chasing each other through the trees. It was absolutely glorious outside and I took a moment to show gratitude for the beautiful day and for my dog, Harley.
My feet took me a few more steps when I came across a beautiful, pink flower. It was just lying there on the ground, completely detached. I knelt down to pick it up and held it in my hand, inspecting its beauty.
It was in this moment where a profound thought entered into my mind:
“this flower is so beautiful, regardless of its detachment.”
An immediate smile formed on my lips as I glanced up at the sky. I thought of that wonderful saying that didn’t make sense to me three years ago:
“the root of suffering is attachment” – Buddha
I’ve had a much better understanding of this meaning…especially lately. Through the vibrational shifts I have experienced the past four months, I have learned many important things. Among these things, the importance of solitude has been ringing loudly for me and it’s something I needed to understand. Solitude has been a phenomenal healing experience for me and I know that moving forward, I will always make time for myself to do the inward healing that I need to.
What’s important to know is that detachment is one of the divine keys to life. How you ask? Well, let me explain this for you…
You know how when you are trying to hold onto a rope that’s pulling away from you, you get what’s called a “rope burn?” You get this with life as well. Sometimes it hurts way more to try desperately to hold on than it is to just let go and I know this for a fact.
Allowing yourself to love something or someone is blissful, but do this with a sense of detachment. Yes, you can immerse yourself in this love and fully take part in it but you need to be okay if it suddenly leaves you. A huge mistake people often make in life is that they define their happiness with some outside influence. So, when this thing leaves, we are standing alone in a dark hallway holding our aching chest.
Simply accepting what is and allowing what is meant to be flow in and out of your life when it should is a great level of understanding and awareness that will truly help you move forward. A great example of this is a relationship when it suddenly cuts to an end. Being able to say, “I am okay, this was meant to happen because I have something to learn here. I will survive and I am okay with this” will allow you the freedom living. Without an unhealthy attachment, you will be able to navigate this life with ease knowing that you will simply accept what happens. It’s a beautiful bliss that I am so happy I have had the opportunity to experience fully. Now, when I open up to things, I do so with that sense of detachment.
“if this leaves me, I will be okay. I will survive. Let it come and let it be.”
Find this comfort within yourself and within everything you are attached too. This is not unhealthy, it only becomes unhealthy when you are trying to hold onto something so tightly that it is being smothered. And unfortunately, this happens a lot with love.
Detachment is a key because you take your power back.
• xoxo •